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Lewis County - Family Court


Standard Conditions of Parental Behavior

ORDERED that each parent, guardian or custodian named above, shall comply with the following directive; which shall be deemed incorporated into any existing Order of Custody (“Parent”), Parenting Team (FKA Visitation) or Order of Protection. (Paragraph 99 on official form)

1. Civil Treatment: All conversations interactions and dealings of any sort between the parents shall be conducted in a civil and courteous manner.

2. Discussion with Child: Neither parent shall discuss the legal aspects of this case or other adult issues with or in front of the child or permit third persons to do so.

3. No Disparagement: Neither parent shall disparage the other parent or other members of that parent's family or household to or in front of the child or permit third persons to do so.

4. Prompt Notice: Each parent shall promptly and fully disclose to the other parent any event significantly affecting the child's health, education, behavior or general welfare. That each party shall notify the other party of any educational or extracurricular or other activities of the child, in a manner, and each party shall have a right to attend any such activities.

5. Appointments: Each parent shall give the other timely notice of the child's medical or dental appointments, school events, parent-teacher conferences/meetings, counseling sessions, and the like.

6. Medical Emergencies: Each party shall immediately notify the other party of any medical emergencies or significant medical condition that may arise involving the child while the child is (are) in their respective care, and each party shall have the right to access the child at the place of any confinement of the subject child.

7. Schoolwork: Each parent shall preserve for the other parent's periodic review, all schoolwork, school projects, report cards, interim reports, disciplinary reports or anything of like importance sent home from the school with the child.

8. Address and Phone Numbers: Each parent shall keep the other informed of the other's residential address and work and home phone numbers, or any change thereto within 24 hours of any such change. Calls to the other parent's place of employment shall not be made, except to discuss important matters concerning the child that cannot wait until the end of the business day or unless that parent has agreed to accept calls at work. Calls to the other parent shall be at reasonable times and intervals.

9. Drugs or Alcohol: Neither parent shall become intoxicated while the child is (are) with them; neither parent shall be under the influence of any illegal drugs while the child is (are) in their care and shall use any drugs prescribed to them only in the proper manner and dosage prescribed.

10. Promptness: The parent picking up or dropping off the child for the exercise of parenting time shall do so promptly at the appointed time and child being picked up shall be ready to leave at the appointed time.

11. Scheduled Activities: Each parent exercising custodial or parenting time shall be responsible for insuring the attendance of the child's scheduled organized activities such as music or dance lessons, soccer, baseball or basketball practice, or games, or regularly attended religious activities. Neither parent shall enroll the child in any new organized activities of this type or commit the child to other activities such as sleepovers or birthday parties that will take place during the other parent's custodial or parenting time without the prior consent of the affected parent.

12. Discipline: The parents shall endeavor to have a consistent set of rules of behavior and methods of discipline that apply to the child. Areas of concern include TV time and programming, Internet access, computer and video game use, curfews and peer associations. Excessive corporal punishment shall not be used to discipline a child.

13. General Welfare: The child shall at all times be properly supervised. The child shall not be exposed to intimate adult activities. Child's regularly established meal and bedtime routines shall be adhered to as closely as possible. Any medicine or special diet regimen shall be adhered to. The child should be returned to the other parent with all clothing or other personal belongings that came with the child at the start of the parenting time. Homework assignments due for the next school day should be completed.

14. Communication: If the child is (are) able to communicate by telephone, email, or other electronic means, each party shall allow the child to have reasonable contact with the other parent while the child is (are) with them, without interference. It shall be the responsibility of the parent, if necessary, to place the call to the number designated for that purpose by the other parent. Said telephone calls shall be of such duration as to not interfere with the child's bedtime and taking the child's age(s) (and attention span) into consideration.

15. Use of Mom and Dad Neither party shall encourage the child to refer to anyone other than the parties themselves as "mom", "dad", or the like, nor allow any third parties to do so. In the even the child use(s) such titles in reference to any third party, the parties shall have an affirmative obligation to discourage the child from doing so.

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